The question:

Is it okay to pray together with your boyfriend? I have heard some say that praying together needs to be reserved for when you are married because it is so intimate. I don't think I agree with that. I think everyone who is in a relationship should pray together. What do you think?

The answer:

I certainly do not struggle with a boyfriend and girlfriend praying together, however, what you've heard from other people about becoming more intimate with each other is true. If you are going to pray together, then you need to be aware of the unintended consequences of praying together. With intimacy comes a desire to grow even closer, and this usually means sexual activity. It might sound extreme, but it is a reality. I've counseled well intentioned Christians who struggled with sexual intimacy because of praying together.

Just don't be naive and make sure you keep the relationship healthy and honoring God. I would never discourage a dating couple to pray together, it is important to be on the same page spiritually, and what better way to connect spiritually than praying together.

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