You may or may not have guessed what they are, but in case you haven't, the two most difficult words in the English language are "I'm sorry". For some reason, many of us have a very hard time saying it. It's usually stubbornness, pride or down right defiance, but those two words are pretty important.

The act of forgiveness is crucial in a relationship. We need to be able to forgive and know that we are forgiven as well. Most couples face times of disagreement and things can sometimes get out of hand. When we do something to hurt or offend we need to take responsibility for it. Part of taking responsibility is apologizing. It takes great humility to do this, and it isn't always easy, but it is essential.

The same applies to all of our relationships. As parents, when we've made a mistake we need to be able to go to our children and say I'm sorry. Our kids will never learn to take responsibility for their own actions if they don't see their most important role models doing the same. Since it all begins in the home, our kids need to see it demonstrated, not just instructed.

Remember though, that the apology itself cannot be merely words. An apology should come from a truly repentant heart, and with repentance comes change. That means that with the words "I'm sorry", should also come the ACT of change. You should be endeavoring to keep from repeating whatever you did to hurt or offend. That may mean taking a break before saying something you'll regret, or thinking something through before making a decision that may adversely effect someone else.

Scripture tells us to forgive seventy times seven. But we must also be willing to ask for forgiveness just as many times. As tough as it may sometimes seem, saying, "I'm sorry" will make your relationships better and make you a better person.

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