Don't Draw Attention to Her Unattractive Features

Wrinkles, gray hair, and excess weight are definitely not on the list of possible conversation starters. Even your casual comments about them can make your wife insecure—she may fear being traded in on a "newer model." She knows divorce is just too easy and common nowadays.

One husband wrote his wife a cute poem about how much he loves her little wrinkles and how he loved caressing her "cellulose cells." His card, though softened with flowers, made her cry for hours. Men, we have to praise our wives without drawing attention to what they believe are their unattractive features.

That doesn't mean you should use insincere flattery. Have you ever been to a party where someone compliments you and you know inside he or she don't mean what they say? Sometimes a husband will casually remark, "Oh, yeah, I really like that dress." But his wife can generally detect his insincerity. Even if you don't like her dress, you can say something sincere like, "Honey, the dress isn't half as good-looking as you are."

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