Q: I am newly married and we have sex 6 times a week. I fake it everytime and do not enjoy it. I hope I am not one of those people who do not enjoy sex. What can I do?

A: There can be great awkwardness with sexual intimacy for newlyweds. Don't mistake inexperience with disinterest. Experience, discussion and experiment can increase pleasure in the bedroom.

I want you to share this email with your husband. The husband needs to find ways to prolong orgasm for himself and increase foreplay for his wife. From clitoral rubs to long passionate kissing, each spouse needs to ask the question, "What brings you pleasure?" That question can be asked both inside and outside the bedroom.

But always remember, sex starts early in the day. Connecting relationally is the most important part. If you feel your relationship is strong, then focusing on sexual technique is the next step.

I would also encourage you to educate yourself. Know that you are not alone. Because of all of the questions I receive at our website on sex I released a book earlier this year called The Language of Sex. The first half of book deals with the relational aspects of sex, the second half focuses on the practical application and technique. I wrote the book with my pastor and friend, Ted Cunningham. It was an eye opener for me writing that book.

Blessings!

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