Disciplemaking is a joyful task, but it also carries great responsibility. Scripture describes the discipler/disciple relationship in a variety of ways. Three biblical metaphors give us especially vivid pictures of what it means to practice this dynamic relationship.

Parent/Child

In Mk. 10:24, Jesus refers to His disciples as children. Romans 8:16 communicates this same idea: "The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God's children." The discipler is like a foster parent who assists the heavenly Parent, God, in helping the disciple grow spiritually. The discipler helps the disciple avoid remaining a babe in Christ (1 Co. 3:1, Heb. 5:12-14).

Included in the idea of being a parent are the concepts of nurture, instruction, encouragement, and accountability. It means that we consistently and lovingly instruct and correct so that the disciple knows what is expected and is motivated to obey.

Shepherd/Sheep

Jesus Christ is the Chief Shepherd, and we are His sheep (Jn. 10:14, 1 Pet. 5:4). Yet we are instructed to participate in shepherding His flock (Jn. 21:16-17, 1 Pet. 5:2). Attitude is very important when doing this. We must not consider ourselves more important or in a higher position than those who are in our charge. Rather, the caring discipler serves as an example (1 Pet. 5:3).

A shepherd is willing to lay down his life for the sheep (Jn. 10:14-18). Rarely does this mean literally giving one's life, but it frequently means sacrificing time and effort. We do this by spending time with others when it isn't always convenient to do so. We listen to their concerns and put their needs above our own. We let the "spaghetti boil over" so that we can give them the attention they require.

Conversely, the disciple must accept and follow the lead of the discipler. And both must exercise utter dependence on the Chief Shepherd.

Teacher/Pupil

While Jesus is the preeminent teacher (Mt. 23:8, Jn. 20:16), through the work of the Holy Spirit (Jn. 14:26), human teachers also play a significant role in helping disciples reach spiritual maturity. In addition to imparting knowledge, we share our lives through our example. By revealing what we have learned in our walk with the Lord-the pitfalls and the successes-we give others a pattern and direction for growth. For example, we need to let others see how we handle difficult situations-a personality conflict, money shortages, rebellion from our children, etc. We can memorize Scripture so that they will be motivated to do so. We should pray with them so that they will become people who pray.

Luke 6:40 says that "a pupil (disciple) is not above his teacher; but everyone, after he has been fully trained, will be like his teacher."

Additional metaphors in the Bible describe the disciple: aliens and strangers (Eph. 2:19, 1 Pet. 2:11); brother/sister (Mt. 12:50); free men (1 Pet. 2:16); friends (3 Jn. 14); and saints (1 Co. 1:2). A wise discipler studies these metaphors and applies the concepts to his or her own discipling ministry.

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