"Our relationship is fine. We don't need to change."

Choice equals change. Making a choice is often difficult because it requires change. And that change can be threatening.

You have to take control of your life, stop being a victim of your past, and start moving on to something new. You have to make a choice. You have to change. Even when the change is scary.

The mistake so many of us make in our relationships is to think that if we just let things stay as they are, if we can postpone making a choice, making a change, then we can get through a difficult experience. We fail to understand that by not making critical choices we are choosing. By not doing anything, we force change to be done to us.

I think that the most exciting part of knowing I am made with the capacity to choose is that all of my thoughts determine all of my actions and emotions. It doesn't matter what others do to me or what circumstances I face everyday, I determine all of my feelings, sad or happy, by what I choose to think and how I choose to react to what happens to me. I love that freedom.

What will you choose?

Will you choose to act in ways that hinder or enhance your relationships?

© Copyright 2005 Smalley Relationship Center

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