The personality inventory you take is not like a test you fail or pass. It's more like a fingerprint that shows your tendencies. Tendencies can change, unlike fingerprints. Discovering your personality tendencies in relationships helps to show where your strengths and weaknesses exist.
Each of us has these personality strengths in combinations which are variable and adjustable. They need to be brought into balance. Therefore, the goal of this session is to honor your personality strengths and help you understand where you are "out of balance" in terms of your personality. We've found that our greatest personal strengths—when pushed out of balance—become our greatest weakness. For instance, let's say that your strength is that you have tremendous enthusiasm, this becomes a weakness as your enthusiasm turns into manipulation or obnoxious behavior.
If a particular character trait of yours is too extreme, to the point that it irritates your mate or your children, you can decide to decrease that trait and increase the characteristics of other traits.
Let's take a closer look at four different personality (color) types to bring oneness, satisfaction and harmony to your relationship.
| | The Captain | The Social Director | The Steward | The Navigator |
| Relational Strengths: | Takes charge.
Problem solver.
Competitive.
Enjoys change.
Confrontational. | Optimistic.
Energetic.
Motivators.
Future oriented. | Warm & Relational.
Loyal.
Enjoys Routine.
Peace-Maker.
Sensitive Feelings.
| Accurate and precise.
Quality control.
Discerning.
Analytical. |
| Strengths Out of Balance: | Too direct or impatient.
Too busy.
Cold blooded.
Impulsive or takes big risks.
Insensitive to others. | Unrealistic or day-dreamer.
Impatient or over bearing.
Manipulator or pushy.
Avoids details or lacks follow-through. | Attract the hurting.
Missed opportunities.
Stays in a rut.
Sacrifice own feelings for harmony.
Easily hurt or holds a grudge.
| Too critical or too strict.
Too controlling.
Too negative of new opportunities.
Lose overview. |
| Communication Style: | Direct or blunt.
One-way.
Weakness: Not as good a listener. | Can inspire others.
Optimistic or enthusiastic.
One-way.
Weakness: High energy can manipulate others. | Indirect.
Two-way.
Great listener.
Weakness: Uses too many words or provides too many details. | Factual.
Two-way.
Great listener (tasks).
Weakness: Desire for detail and precision can frustrate others.
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| Relational Needs: | Personal attention & recognition for what they do.
Areas where he or she can be in charge.
Opportunity to solve problems.
Freedom to change.
Challenging activities.
| Approval.
Opportunity to verbalize.
Visibility.
Social recognition. | Emotional security.
Agreeable Environment. | Quality.
Exact expectations. |
| Relational Balance: | Add softness.
Become a great listener. | Be attentive to mate's needs.
There is such a thing as too much optimism. | Learn to say "NO" … establish emotional boundaries.
Learn to confront when own feelings are hurt. | Total support is not always possible.
Thorough explanation isn't everything. |
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